Mia was 8 months old when we decided to try for another baby; one month in I was pregnant… déjà vu, my body obviously thinks this is a great time to have a baby...
Déjà vu, my body obviously thinks this is a great time to have a baby.
I had niggling tightening’s on and off all night so I called the hospital and they said it was best to come in so they can check. We jumped in the car and drove straight up, no hospital bag; it was just a check up… right? The midwife decided to do an internal to see if I was dilated at all. “Congratulations” she said, “you are 4 cm’s dilated, you’re going to have a baby today!”
Uhh what? I haven’t even felt proper contractions? Tough titties, this baby was coming mama!
My mum got on the next flight out, so did my best friend. Baby daddy, Mia and myself stayed in a hotel next to the hospital as they suggested I stay close until my contractions started heating up. Everyone arrived that night and my contractions weren’t that bad, I ended up sleeping through until the morning. Casually we walked over to the hospital to have another internal and see what was going on, not much had progressed I had gotten to 5cms and the midwife monitored bub, she said bub and I were both a little tired and dehydrated and suggested going on a drip to hydrate. An hour of hydration and I was feeling great! The doctor came in to perform an internal, she said she could feel my waters and said she could break them if I wanted her too. I was already 5cms and in the hospital with my birth partners so I said lets get this show on the road.
Within 15 minutes my contractions began. I walked up and down the hallway stopping to lean against the wall with every contraction and eating Pringles in my breaks. I focused on my breath and as a contraction came I spelt out our planned baby name with my hips, this helped me to stay centred through each strong surge. The contractions quickly came closer together so I moved back into the birthing suite.
"I felt the urge to push, I started crying because no one was with me, and the midwife and I thought they were going to miss the birth. The midwife called my partner and left a message “you need to run..."
One hour had past and because my partner and mum were tag teaming looking after Mia at the hotel, the midwife asked that my partner make his way over here asap! Mum left, I was leaning inside a cupboard when I felt the urge to push, I started crying because no one was with me, and the midwife and I thought they were going to miss the birth. The midwife called my partner and left a message “you need to run!” as I started pushing hard. I told the midwife I felt like I needed to do a poo, so she sat me on the toilet, I had another contraction and pushed, she said “Stand up that’s a head, that’s a head… oh and a poo!” She caught it and flushed it away so quick and went straight back to helping me stand. The door burst open and my partner and best friend ran through the door and my partner caught me just as I was standing in between the doorway of the bathroom and the bed, “IT’S BURNING, GET IT OUTTTT OF MEEEE, GET IT OUTTTTTTTT”. This was the strongest sensation I had ever felt in my life. The baby’s head had just come out, my best friend was saying, “It’s nearly out babe, one more push, you can do this”.
Another intense contraction came and I pushed the shoulders through and she was out… our beautiful baby girl, Billie Haven 7 pound 3 ounces. Born in 1 hour and 25 minutes of drug free labour.
My babies are 16 months apart; this took a toll on my body during both pregnancies, as I was violently ill with both for the entire 9 months. My stories show how different every pregnancy really is whether you have a drug free birth or a cesarean, we are all amazing women to be able to carry and create human beings. Motherhood isn’t a competition, it’s a life journey that should be shared and supported by all us mothers.
Introducing Billie Haven.
Thank you Jayde for sharing your journey, it is so intriguing to see the difference between births. I find it so inspiring that even though your first experience with Mia was difficult, with Billie you were determined to still try a natural birth. I found your stories so powerful and moving and it is a reflection of who you are as a person and a mother.
If you would like to follow Jayde and her beautiful girls you can by clicking here! - A warning though, her family is really, really ridiculously good looking (baby daddy included), they live in the most magical place in Australia and her bebe's are the sweetest and get this- Jayde is a genuine, kind & funny person, how? We don't know but they won the gene pool and life lottery and we love it.